In Friday’s post I mentioned I had something really fun up my sleeve regarding my wedding over the weekend. The surprise was that I invited six girlfriends to brunch at one of my favorite restaurants in Dallas, Taverna, and asked them all to be my bridesmaids! It was a special day, and I feel so lucky to have some of the kindest, funniest, most fierce girl bosses I know standing beside me on my special day! In addition to sharing the details on how I popped the question to my friends, I’ve also put together a quick list of ideas on how to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. Hopefully they get those creative juices flowing in order to make your gal pals feel loved when you ask them to be such a big part of your wedding!
A little bit about how I planned the day: I will admit that I am a little bit of a crazy person when it comes to cohesion in decor, so when I figured out I wanted to give the girls pink champagne bottles, everything else started to fall into place. Etsy is the BEST place to find adorable knick knacks, props, decorations, and prints. It’s where I found all of the table decor, except the champagne bottle and flowers, for this bridesmaids brunch!
The wedding photo booth props were a huge hit with the girls. We spent at least 20 minutes after brunch rotating people in and out to take a ton of photos. They would also be super fun to have at a bachelorette party or even at an actual wedding! It was one of those details that you think will be cute but end up being a main attraction.
You’ve seen how I asked my friends to be bridesmaids, but there are so many fun, personal ways you can do it. No matter how you decide to “pop the question” to your friends, here are some main focus points I really tried to prioritize when planning how I was going to go about asking the girls to stand by my side on my wedding day.
Here are 5 ideas on how to ask your friends to be bridesmaids:
- Write each of them a personal card. This may seem super obvious, but the art of the hand-written note has definitely been lost. Write down a favorite memory, a tough time that they helped you get through, and an inside joke between the two of you! It will be a great reminder for you both on how far you’ve come since starting your friendship.
- Give the girls a small gift. This is to thank them for everything they’re about to do for you and your wedding. Being a bridesmaid is a fun honor, but it’s also work! They’ll be planning your bachelorette party, putting together showers, and helping out a ton on the day of the wedding. There are so many creative things you can give that they will love and will tie into your wedding. “Pop the question” with a bottle of champagne, create personalized mixed CDs for each girl with songs you both love, or print super old photos!
- Find a way to introduce the girls who do not know each other. Five of my bridesmaids live in Dallas and one of them lives in Houston, so I am lucky that it wasn’t hard to get everyone in the same place for a meal. If you have bridesmaids across multiple states or countries who do not know each other, make a point to introduce each person to the group via text or even a Google Hangout. They are going to be spending a lot of time together both planning for and celebrating you, so make sure everyone is comfortable in the group.
- Try to plan one event/activity that everyone can attend before the planning begins. Again, this will be tough if you have bridesmaids across multiple states or countries, but even if the majority of women can get together to meet, discuss showers, talk about bridesmaids dresses, etc., it will break the barrier of initial conversation and get ideas flowing. This also a great way to plan something special like a brunch!
- Make it about them. Throughout your engagement period, a lot of focus will be on you as the bride. Make the act of asking your girlfriends to be bridesmaids all about them. They love you as much as you love them, and they deserve some recognition for being such a big part of your life.
This day was one of the moments I have looked most forward to in the wedding planning process, and it will be for you, too. Your friends are going to love however you go about asking them to be a part of your special day.
How did you ask your friends to be bridesmaids? Did you do something super creative? Let me know in the comments below.